Being Overwhelmed Sucks The Joy From Your Life. Here’s How To Avoid It.

Life is a wild journey, and there are so many things to love about it. There are beautiful surprises you never saw coming, people you meet who lighten your path, and many other triumphs. It’s critical for us to preserve the joy in our lives, making it so important to avoid things that will suck the joy out of our existence. Being overwhelmed? That’s a pretty big joy sucker, and it’s one that the majority of us are guilty of. We desire to accomplish too many things at once, while trying to be everything to everyone. Before you realize it, your plate is overflowing, and you are scrambling to find a way out of tasks and commitments. If you’re like me, constantly finding yourself in a state of overwhelm, now is a really great time to make an effort to avoid it in the future. Here’s how.

Plan ahead (if you can)

I’m certainly not going to suggest that your problems will magically be solved by getting a calendar and a to-do list. If it were that simple, EVERYONE would be well-adjusted, stress-free, and you probably wouldn’t be bothering to read this post. There are way too many variables in life that can throw off even the best-laid out plans. Life comes at you fast. Having said that, start where you are and plan ahead to the best of your ability. Put those plans to paper and prepare family and friends in the event that you need to start delegating tasks. Planning gives you the opportunity to feel a little more prepared when life goes left.

Always be aware of your commitments

Remember that planner from the previous paragraph? Though you won’t be able to prevent the random things that pop up in life, your planner will help you stay on task and remember how much you’ve taken on. If you know that you are almost at maximum capacity between projects, family responsibilities, and time for yourself (what’s that?), it becomes that much easier to say “no” when your schedule is reaching a level that could lead to overwhelm.

Say “no” when you need to

Oh, how we love to say “yes” to people to be of service and joy to others. The happiness that our yeses bring when we want to say no is priceless. The light in their eyes and the relief that exudes adds value to your purpose. That’s what life is all about, helping your fellow man, right? Pause for a minute. Do you realize that you are a part of that fellow man stuff? When you say “yes” to everyone without considering your own needs, you are setting your own self up for overwhelm and resentment. Say yes, but do so with caution and awareness of your own needs.

Ask for help, Ask for help, Ask for help

Everyone, even you, may need occasional help. Try as we might, no one is immune to becoming overwhelmed and you will need help to escape it from time to time. That’s part of being a regular human being. The challenge for most of us is that we are too proud and too dang on scared to ask for help. After all, when you have to ask for help, there is a certain amount of vulnerability in that asking. If you get into a bind, don’t be ashamed to need a hand. We all get by with a little help from our friends.

Being overwhelmed is no joke. A constant habit of being stressed out can lead to more problems for you in the future. Depression and anxiety can develop from those stress levels being too high for too long. That’s a whole other can of worms that you absolutely don’t need in your life. You are going to go ahead and learn to manage those stress levels and do it well. Here’s to your new life, less overwhelmed.

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René Brooks

Who am I? Well, for starters, my name is René. Ever since I can remember, I have been a typical ADHDer. I lose my keys, my books, my essays, my homework, and my glasses when they are on my face. I was diagnosed at the tender age of 11, but never received treatment until age 25. The experience of learning that what I have is real and that it can be worked with began there.

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  • Christopher Mitchell December 15, 2017 at 8:30 AM

    The number one thing for me that you mentioned here is that I really don’t know when to say “no” because I want to please everyone, so this is a helpful reminder!

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  • Candy Rachelle December 15, 2017 at 12:09 AM

    I agree with you. Planning is really important. I’ve learned a lot here. So many good things that I have gained and they made me reflect.

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  • Susan Q December 14, 2017 at 7:00 PM

    I can’t tell you how much I needed to read this! I’ve been feeling so overwhelmed during this holiday season but now I think I need to focus on simplicity. Thanks for the reminder!

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  • Rahul Khurana December 14, 2017 at 1:54 AM

    Very well written and important points to keep in mind. I need to plan things and write down my tasks now. I am very lazy in that work. I agree that taking help is important and returning the favour too. We cannot please everyone and we should know it.

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  • Carissa December 13, 2017 at 1:43 PM

    Saying “no” and asking for help are difficult for me, but they’re skills I work to improve. We can’t be everything to everyone and still be peaceful and happy.

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  • Nicole Caudle December 13, 2017 at 11:47 AM

    This is so true! I do my best to recognize when I start taking on too much but sometimes it sneaks up on me.

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  • Ada December 12, 2017 at 10:03 PM

    YES, I absolutely have to plan ahead or I’ll go crazy haha.

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  • Tina Grant December 12, 2017 at 9:20 PM

    I have learned to say no and now I am able to get my lists completed and the wonderful thing is fewer people are asking for help, i guess the word is out that I am now saying no 🙂

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  • Wendy Pwolisi December 12, 2017 at 6:42 PM

    Oh thanks for this. I have a friend who is really struggling right now.

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  • Soonjoo December 12, 2017 at 10:10 AM

    I’m also planner without any written down plan and have all in your head will give me headache.

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  • Athena December 12, 2017 at 8:50 AM

    I agree – I can easily get overwhelmed. I have to plan and hope that things don’t go off track – but of course they do, and often.

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  • Tara Pittman December 11, 2017 at 7:16 PM

    I am a planer. I tend to plan things right before bed as it helps me unwind.

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  • Jen Temcio December 11, 2017 at 6:36 PM

    I have a hard time with saying no and then being overwhelmed! You advice was much needed for me today and I appreciate it so much.

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  • Jeanette December 11, 2017 at 6:17 PM

    You are right when you are overwhelmed there is no joy! I learned a long time ago to ask for help but even then it took some time! I feel much better with sharing the load. I feel better and other feel good that they are helping me.

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