The Recipe to Conceiving a Girl

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Jayden is my little mini-me. There’s no doubt about it. And the relationship that we have is unique to us, mother and son. He looks just like me as most boys resemble their mothers. My family refers to him as “Little Sheena” and often point out that he even has the same mannerisms as I did when I was his age.

The relationship and resemblance between Jayden and I is something that Greg would love to share with his (unconceived) daughter. The Daddy Daughter relationship is so special. It’s one that I wasn’t fortunate enough to have, but I would love to live vicariously through my daughter. I know how much Greg wants a daughter and while there are many factors that go into gender, I promised I’d do whatever I naturally can to try and give him his baby girl.

As silly as it sounds, we’ve been researching ways to conceive a girl and we’ve found some interesting information. The consensus is that conceiving a girl is a well-thought-out romantic procedure that is precise and a little stressful (but I’m willing to commit). And conceiving a boy is as simple as the spontaneous hot and wild rendezvous during lunch *smirk*.

How to Conceive a Girl

Precise Timing

Dr. Shettles, author of How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby, believes that timing of conception is the biggest factor in determining the sex of a baby. Studies have shown that Y-chromosome sperm (boys) are faster swimmers than X-chromosome sperm (girls). Girl sperm, however, are can survive longer in the reproductive tract than boy sperm.

So this means that couples are more likely to conceive a girl if they have intercourse every day for two to four days before ovulating and then abstain from intercourse one to two days before ovulation and a few more days after ovulation. So by the time of ovulation, all of the male sperm would have perished, leaving only female sperm to fertilize the egg. It’s super important not to have intercourse on the day of ovulation because this gives the faster-swimming male sperm a chance to beat the girls to the egg.

This method also requires the woman knowing her cycle down to the T to determine when she’s ovulating. I suggest visiting Fertility Friend, downloading a Fertility smartphone app, and purchasing a Basal Thermometer and some ovulation tests (Opk’s by Wondfo are super cheap & accurate).

Eat Highly Acidic Foods

Gender-prediction gurus recommend following a diet of acidic foods a few weeks before trying to conceive a girl. Eating acidic foods alters the pH balance in a woman’s body, which create conditions where girl-producing sperm will thrive in. Diet should also be high in calcium and magnesium, but low in salt and potassium (boys thrive on these foods).

Shallow Penetration

Dr. Shettles believes that certain sexual positions that allow for shallow penetration can increase the odds of having a girl. The vagina is more acidic closer to its entrance and we’ve learned that male-carrying sperm don’t thrive well in acidic environments. Shettles recommends the missionary position for couples who want to conceive a girl, but encourages creativity :).

Forget The Orgasm

Shettle’s also believes that a woman’s orgasm plays a role in determining the sex of the baby. When a woman has an orgasm, her body releases a substance that increases alkaline levels. We know that an environment high in alkaline favors boys, so ladies better think about the laundry because hubby’s getting a freebie.

Make Love

Amy Bell of Baby Zone interviewed two mothers and they agreed that well-planned, romantic intercourse will most likely render a girl and quickies all willy nilly will render boys. Interesting.

One mom said her daughter was conceived during a planned encounter with soft music and candlelight. And her son was conceived on her husband’s lunch break from work. There were no candles, no soft music… just a wham-bam, thank you ma’am.

The other mom said her daughter was conceived during regimented, planned sex in correlation to her carefully counted menstrual cycle days. “If you want a boy, your drunken husband should attack you on the living room floor on a random weeknight and you should have no idea where you are in your monthly cycle,” referring to how her son was conceived.

Warm Up The Jewels

Studies have shown that girl-producing sperm can tolerate warmer temperatures, and male-producing sperm, not so much. Excessive heat to a man’s scrotum will reduce his sperm count, but the boys will be the first to perish. General advice for increased fertility is to keep the little soldiers at a moderate temperature. But if you really want a girl, have hubby take a quick warm bath or participate in some other activity to warm up the jewels pre-intercourse.

Follow The Chinese Lunar Birth Calendar

The Chinese Lunar Birth Calendar has been around for some 700 years. When using the calendar, a baby’s sex can be determined by the mother’s age and the month in which she conceives. By crossing the month a child was conceived with the age of the mother at conception, it is said that you can determine the birth of your unborn child. Since I am 25 years old and want to have a girl, I should try to conceive in January, April, May, or July, according to the Chinese birth calendar. Jayden was conceived some time between July and August and the chinese gender predictor returned the result of a boy. Scary! I even entered my mother’s info for me and the results returned a girl. I don’t know whether to be excited or freaked out. Sidenote: The calendar is only designed to work only for women with calendar ages between 16 and 43.

So let’s recap. In order to conceive a girl, you must know your cycles like the back of your hand, make friends with acidic foods, keep hubby out of the deep end, enjoy making love (but not too much!) after he marinates in a warm bath on your appropriate Chinese lunar conception month.


I’ve always wondered why it seems like it’s so easy to have a boy. Look at what must be done to have a girl, goodness! We’re in a time where couples are more sexually aware, women are more in tune with their bodies, and well, sex is more advanced and more… wild and rushed. My grandparents had 7 girls and 3 boys between the 1940’s and 1950’s. Sex was not as liberating in those times, so maybe that’s how they got their 7 girlies? #thinkingoutloud

So what are your thoughts? If you can think back to your days of conception, does any of the above information ring true? I am just tickled and cannot help but to think of how people were conceived. Sidenote: I really don’t even want to have to mention this, but sometimes posts can veer off of their intended purpose. This post is not intended to poke fun at or judge those who have “good sex” or “bad sex”, orgasms or whatever and it should not be seen as an underappreciation for one gender. Every pregnancy is a miracle. Let’s not forget that. I’m just providing an avenue for a mature discussion with a side of giggles.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

(Sources: Baby Zone, Baby Hopes, Fertility Friend)

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Sheena Tatum

Hey, I'm Sheena! I married my jr. high sweetheart and together, we raise three tiny humans in NW Indiana. I'm an introverted free-spirit and serial dreamer obsessed with all things tropical and carefree. I love inspiring others to live wholly and find beauty in the mundane. I don't always get it right, but I'll keep trying anyway. :) Email: [email protected]

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  • Cindy Brooks February 25, 2012 at 9:26 PM

    I don’t know if any of these ideas work or not. But, I would have tried any of them if they’d been around when my boys were born. I now have 5 grandsons and am still waiting for a little girl I can spoil with frilly pink πŸ™‚

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  • Nicole DeFontes February 25, 2012 at 9:16 PM

    I was lucky enough to have one of each and am sooo done but hey I guess if it works! Thanks for the giveaway.

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  • Meandering Matt February 25, 2012 at 6:45 PM

    I find it interesting that you mentioned the Chinese Lunar Birth Calendar because my wife checked that out after we got pregnant with my son. It was correct as to the baby being a male. My wife’s cycle is so messed up, it’s hard to follow any of the timing events though.

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  • Katharine D February 25, 2012 at 6:10 PM

    I think you can try, but some of us are just stuck with a male who has boy dominating sperm (from a mommy of 3 boys LOL)

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  • R Hicks February 25, 2012 at 3:41 PM

    I don’t think it really matters in the overall picture. For the most part the number of boys and girls born since the time of record keeping is almost 50/50.

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  • Melissa Vaught February 25, 2012 at 3:40 PM

    How interesting! I’ve always thought it was so cool when you do certain things to predict the baby’s sex. My niece had a baby last year, and I got her a prediction kit, and it was correct! good luck to you!

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  • Lisa Garner February 25, 2012 at 10:05 AM

    Well my husbands family is overrun with boys and our first two where both boys and when I got pregnant with our last child I automatically began buying blue. Turn out it was a girl! I can honestly say there was no “romance” or tricks to her conception so I’m not sure what worked for us this time but maybe a little luck.

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  • kathy pease February 25, 2012 at 9:40 AM

    it gives you something to think about and may be worth a shot..who knows

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  • Karen February 25, 2012 at 8:15 AM

    My grandparents and parents also had more girls than boys. I’ve never really thought about it until now.

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  • debra p February 25, 2012 at 6:18 AM

    There may be merit in this but I don’t think it’s up to science.

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  • Naomi February 25, 2012 at 4:26 AM

    My family has girl after girl after girl! And you know what, I am pretty sure people did not plan this!

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  • Scott D February 25, 2012 at 12:23 AM

    Very interesting! wish you the best!

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  • Ashley Morrissey February 24, 2012 at 9:18 PM

    Wow! Interesting stuff! My fiance and I are crossing our fingers for a boy actually! It’s our first πŸ™‚

    Good luck to you!

    -Ashley Marie Morrissey

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  • Lean S February 24, 2012 at 7:22 PM

    This is interesting. I always thought the probability of conceiving a female was higher in general.

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  • Kate Strycker February 24, 2012 at 7:20 PM

    I’ve heard of this method and while its not entirely proven it’s not harmful to try, either. In any case, parents will be happy with whatever sex they get πŸ™‚

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  • Shanna February 24, 2012 at 7:05 PM

    I’m pregnant with twins! Crossing my fingers for a girl!!!
    The Chinese chart says girl !! LOL

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  • Scooper February 24, 2012 at 4:25 PM

    I have two girls without any planning. That is an awful lot of work for a possible edge. I don’t know that I believe it.

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  • Calli February 24, 2012 at 12:27 PM

    I’ve never really considered this aspect before. I’ve heard tales about what to eat and what not to eat to help determine gender, but this is an entire study on it!

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  • KDailey February 24, 2012 at 9:47 AM

    I’ll consider this. My daughter is ready for a sister.

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  • Harold D February 23, 2012 at 9:08 AM

    Wow, that’s a lot of planning. I’d rather just “go for it” and wish for a girl… haha.

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  • Kristi February 22, 2012 at 9:54 PM

    We are actually hoping to conceive a boy.

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  • Carol February 21, 2012 at 2:39 PM

    I wished for a boy every time, and had three girls and two boys. God knows best, trust him to send you the right children, he did me!

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  • gina February 20, 2012 at 10:35 PM

    My son is a mini me too, so I would love a girl that may resemble my husband…I am not sure any of this works though. I find the timing of intercourse to be the most interesting & most likely to be effective. Everyone in my family seems to have a boy first & then a girl, so I am hoping I am lucky enough to follow in their footsteps.

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  • Lim February 20, 2012 at 6:48 PM

    I just got a niece this year. After almost two years of trying it was a camping trip that did it for my sister and her hubby.

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  • Amber February 20, 2012 at 10:33 AM

    Definitely an interesting read! Love the photo too, such a cutie!

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  • Sarah Hirsch February 20, 2012 at 9:18 AM

    Interesting theories, but I would advise anyone trying specifically for one gender not to get their hopes up!

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  • Genevieve Larson February 19, 2012 at 9:58 PM

    I have three teenage sons and a 3 year old daughter. I have no idea how we got a girl this time but pure luck! Good luck and have fun making that baby:)

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  • Joanna Price February 19, 2012 at 8:07 PM

    LOL- I’d never heard the orgasm bit before… very interesting. I have 2 boys and would love a girl sometime in the future- Will keep these in mind, thanks!

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  • letessha February 19, 2012 at 6:07 PM

    Wow, that is very interesting info. I have3 girls and 2 boys.

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  • Haley McLain February 19, 2012 at 3:37 PM

    my mom always told me to eat tomatoes to have a girl, maybe that’s relative to the highly acidic foods section? :]

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  • Rebekah J February 19, 2012 at 3:22 PM

    Woah, that was alot! I have 1 boy and 2 girls and truthfully, I’m not sure what we were doing when we conceived them. Fast, slow…up/down…before/after ovulation….? I was in tune with my body and I made sure I knew my cycles of ovulation and I did basal body temping and it worked with each 3. Guess I wasn’t as focused on what we would have though. Would love to see if it works for you guys though!

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  • Vickie Couturier February 19, 2012 at 1:41 PM

    sounds interesting,wish I had known this before my daughter was born,,,I guess I was just lucky,,my son was 10 an a half when she was born,,,

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  • Joy February 19, 2012 at 1:18 PM

    I can’t say that I really buy into any of the ideas, but they might be fun to try out. Good luck!!!

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  • Ashley Montgomery February 19, 2012 at 1:04 PM

    Wow! The things you go through just to have a girl, lol. πŸ™‚

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  • Rust February 19, 2012 at 11:30 AM

    Hooey! (with a side of giggles) πŸ™‚

    This was one of my pet topics when I was trying to conceive. When I did what was suggested for a boy, I got a girl ….and vice versa. LOL!

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  • cancan February 19, 2012 at 8:24 AM

    i had friends who followed some kind of method to plan their 4 kids….they ended up w/ 3 girls and 1 boy, i think they were going for 2 and 2.

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  • Mama Violet February 17, 2012 at 9:18 PM

    I remember this from college. I was so interested in it then I realized my parents birthed 3 girls and I no longer wanted to think about it. πŸ™‚

    I don’t remember all the details of V’s conception but I’m pretty sure ther was an O involved.

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    • Sheena February 18, 2012 at 7:50 AM


      So I still have a chance then ;-).

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  • Akilah February 15, 2012 at 11:35 PM

    This is my kinda post right here!! I don’t think it’s silly at all to research what you want! “…providing an avenue for a mature discussion with a side of giggles.” – Mission accomplished! I’ve heard of the “shallow penetration” technique for conceiving girls too, but um…no thanks! LOL!

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    • Sheena February 15, 2012 at 11:47 PM

      Hahahaaa and the “no orgasm”. I must love my man. After this girl, we’re having another boy. LOL!

      Um so how’d you get your 2 little girlies? I got questions!

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  • Tracey k in Ohio February 15, 2012 at 3:40 PM

    Wow!!! That’s a lot to take in (no puns intended – LOL!!) I never knew any of that. I have a son (wild sex) & never had other children, but this ever comes up with someone I know is trying, I’ll definitely share. πŸ™‚

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  • Nikki @ MommyFactor February 15, 2012 at 11:17 AM

    Ok that’s ALOT of work. I would like a lil girl but dunno if I can commit to the “process”. Tell you what. You try first and let me know how it goes πŸ™‚

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  • Drea February 15, 2012 at 7:10 AM

    AHHHHHh to many visuals LOL!

    My dad gave Travis TIPS when we 1st got married. TMI πŸ˜‰ – we have yet to put any of them to practice and well 3 boys later I think we’re doing well at the boy making haha… if we ever have more tho, we wont worry with technique. Im pretty cool with all boys πŸ˜‰ – and if a girl happens, it be just a neat surprise.

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  • Shary February 15, 2012 at 12:28 AM

    I knew a lot of this as I’m really into all things fertility, but I did learn the orgasm thing. Thank you for posting this and encouraging women to chart. <3

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    • Sheena February 15, 2012 at 11:53 PM

      You are welcome. After my run in with artificial birth control, I am 100% FAM.

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  • Kre February 14, 2012 at 10:25 PM

    Now it all makes sense! My son and I are twins, and he is actually named after me. Yes a Jr. after his mommy! My family says he acts just like me, when I was his age too. Thinking of conception, and if all is true what was written, I can see how the ending results gave me my blessing.

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