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How To Prioritize Your Marriage While Raising Children

You started a family with your soulmate– or hope to in the near future. Suddenly, you throw kids into the mix and it seems like everything is now geared around them! Don’t worry this is a good thing, you just need to remember to check back in with your significant other and remember what matters! 

Continuing to foster love and remaining in a healthy relationship is extremely important. When children are young they are extra observant. By making your relationship a priority, you are creating an excellent example for your kids. Kids function best if their parents are in a healthy relationship. However, between work, children, and chores, it can be challenging to make your partner a priority and foster that love and passion that was present in the beginning. We’re here to give you some tips to do just that!

Remind Them That You Care

Life gets busy, but it’s the little things that count, right? By fostering open communication, you will remind your lover that you’re always there. Something as simple as shooting them a sweet text message while they’re at work or calling them to tell them you love them, might make their day. Small gestures like purchasing flowers, or buying them their favorite chocolate bar will make them feel good. Oftentimes, it’s not about the gift or transactional item, it’s about letting them know that you were thinking about them at that moment. 

Plan Date Night Or Quality Time Together

It is crucial to plan date nights every time you have the chance. We recommend planning one every weekend, if not at least once a month. If you live together, it can seem like you already spend enough time with them. However, this time may not be quality time! By dedicating uninterrupted time to your husband or wife, you are ensuring that you are nurturing your marriage. 

Date night doesn’t have to mean an expensive dinner and movie. It can be something as simple as going on a hike together or trying something new like surfing. Depending on what you like as a couple, simply getting out of the house and spending time together is enough to create a positive experience. 

Travel And Experience New Things Together

Experiencing a new place together can be life-changing. Traveling together positively affects a relationship. Obviously, if you travel, you may have trains to catch, flights to book, and directions to learn. This can improve your communication and allow you to be more patient with your significant other.  Not only that, but you will be creating new memories together. Make sure to take lots of pictures and save them forever. One of the best parts of vacation and travel is that you get to live in the moment more. Traveling is a great place to try something new and test your limits. By doing so with someone you love and trust, your relationship will improve. Think about all the new activities you can do like scuba diving, hiking, or skiing. Adventuring will further support your bond!

Stay Consistent

Children need consistency and routine to grow and mature properly. Establishing a routine with your partner, and being on the same page about it can be very good for your marriage in the long run. For example, by establishing a bedtime routine and sticking to it, it won’t matter who gets which task as long as the routine remains constent. While one person hands out the vitamins for kids, the other can start to get the bath ready, and you can switch off who does what as long as the routine remains consistent for the children. Additionally, it may cause distress within your marriage if one person always has to be the bad guy while the other one allows the children to do whatever they want. Remember that you are on the same team and should harness that power couple mentality at all times! 

Have Weekly Check-Ins

Does your husband feel a bit more irritable after work? You should always find time to listen to your best friend when they’re feeling down. Taking a moment to check in each week, or at the end of each day is important for your relationship! After all, you want to remain close and confide in your partner. If you have no time to sit down and do this, remember that a phone call at lunch is always an option too. Simply compromising just 10 minutes of your day to listen to your partner is so important for a happy life together! 

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