Let’s Try This Again

Warning, this is a long post! I started this post on November 22nd which explains why I said it’s been two months since my last post.

It’s been two months since my last post and I must say that things are good. I look back last year and remember the days when we scrambled to pay bills late and after paying them not having much left over. I honestly don’t know how we did it, but we did it together. During that time, so much was going on, I didn’t feel like blogging here. I was trying to do my thing as as a parenting blogger at Mommy Daddy Blog, so I felt the need to make sure my issues weren’t blasted into the blogosphere. I wanted to keep everything rainbows and lollipops, but we all know life is far from that. I know I like to read happy and uplifting things, the last thing I wanted to do was turn people off. But when you let people into that chapter of your life, your experiences may be comforting to someone who may be going through the same. That’s why I started reading blogs.

I’m working on showing my human side again online. The side I showed before becoming a parent. When Greg and I started Mommy Daddy Blog, I had intentions of running both this blog and that one. I couldn’t keep up. I pushed myself to the side. I started censoring myself in fear of offending readers or the ones who contributed to our cash flow. And I mean it was the little things, not even things that were truly offensive. But I just felt I couldn’t let my true character shine once sponsors came in to the mix. I paid attention to the “image” brands were going for and the other mom bloggers who were climbing the social media ladder. Anything that would give the impression of us not having it together, I simply kept bottled up inside.

I am not the cookie cutter mom in the tv commercials. I’m young and I’m just starting out. I am 23 and Greg is 22. I could care less about any negative thoughts on being young parents or not having a plan in place. Jayden was a surprise, but starting a family was something that we wanted more than anything. He is our everything. Just to give a taste of how badly we wanted kids, our dog had his own bedroom and a wardrobe. We took him wherever we could. I wore him in a sling. Yea. And no, we weren’t one of those couples who compared the struggles of taking care of a pet to the struggles of taking care of a child, but we loved that dog.

Moving on, we are far from the Joneses. And I realize umm we don’t have to be. We are doing a hell of a lot better than many folks who are or were our age with or without kids. But I felt if I wrote about our struggles, opportunities to monetize our blog would not come. The first year of becoming parents was rough financially. We moved to be closer to family, school and job left behind. We’ve resented that move many times. It was like we moved just so that it could be more convenient for family to see Jay. That’s it. And when they saw him, we were coming out there all of the time. Why did we move again?

Some time in between Greg fell out of love with blogging. I’ll let him comment on that if he wishes. I struggled trying to keep things afloat and failed. There’s only so many cutesy picture posts of Jayden that I could post before readers start wondering why sponsors are working with me when the content has gotten so damn bland. I had a hard time taking compliments on something that I wasn’t even proud of. I cringed each time I heard someone tell me how cool it was that both Greg and I blogged together when the last post he wrote was many many months ago.

Things are better since we moved again in September. We are still about the same distance from family and they visit more. Greg’s parents and grandmother pick up Jayden when they can, so we can rejuvenate. Finances are much much better. I realize all of my blogging faux pas and I’m ready to pull myself out of the ditch and continue down the road I veered off of. I’m going back to the basics. That doesn’t mean that I’m no longer participating in sponsored opportunities. Blogging is my business. Running a business is my passion, just not when I am not being myself while doing it. Let me stop and say how thankful I am for my sponsors. I am not blaming them at all for my actions. If it weren’t for them, I don’t know where we’d be. We’ve been truly fortunate.

Personal blogging is something that I really enjoyed for 6 years. I tried something new (mom blogging as I perceived it) and it didn’t work. It’s time to move on. I will be ringing in the new year with intentions of keeping it real. It’s the only way I can be a confident and passionate blogger. Starting over in a sense kinda worried me. But you know what? It’s not about the blog and stats you’ve built. It’s about the person behind the blog. I know my following will meet me here. As I continue to write, traffic from search engines and other sources will trickle in. If I cannot build brand relationships based on being myself, then I don’t need them. Simple as that.

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Sheena Tatum

Hey, I'm Sheena! I married my jr. high sweetheart and together, we raise three tiny humans in NW Indiana. I'm an introverted free-spirit and serial dreamer obsessed with all things tropical and carefree. I love inspiring others to live wholly and find beauty in the mundane. I don't always get it right, but I'll keep trying anyway. :) Email: [email protected]

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  • Lynn @ SafeBeauty November 2, 2011 at 10:04 AM

    I was a young mama too (once) ;o) and yep, I completely agree with you about having to do this for yourself.  Our husbands can’t do it for us, not our kids.  But if writing is something that drives you and you have an honest opinion about yourself and the world – then that’s what draws others to us.  I love the clarity I can sense coming from you through this post.  It’s good to step back and reassess once in awhile.  Otherwise this crazy blogging jungle could eat us up.  Keep on keeping on Sheena.

    My best, Lynn

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  • likeitsgolden October 2, 2010 at 7:04 PM

    Oh, I love this post. Only a handful of people read my blog so I don’t really worry about anything I write. However, I completely agree with you about the importance of sharing struggles. I think nothing really grows from silence and it is in sharing your story, if willing, that you really can make a difference no matter how small.

    I started reading blogs because I was a young mom and just could not identify with the images out there of young mothers (esp young black moms) and only one of my friends has children so it felt kinda lonely. I found a lot of young Mormon mommy blogs full of sugary sweet images and while that is nice and inspiring but sometimes you just want to read a little more of story past the glossy images. I look forward to reading about the highs and lows of our journey, whatever you feel comfortable sharing. I’m just glad to have met another young momma through this virtual community.

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  • Mary From Strollers September 24, 2010 at 6:55 AM

    Well Sheena I think that is the most refreshingly honest blog post I have ever read. There are countless bloggers writing about how wonderful everything is and thats ok, but sometimes life isn’t wonderful and sometmies we do feel as if its all just too much and we are being driven by things we don’t like or can’t control. Thank you for sharing your lows, it makes you a real person. You are young but you sound like you have a wise head on your shoulders and I am sure you will do very well. Stay true to what you want for you and your family, and I wish you the very best in whatever you do.

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  • Darcel @ The Mahogany Way September 12, 2010 at 3:18 PM

    Nice space you have here. I had two blogs once, but couldn’t keep up. I went back and forth on combining them. I know it’s not for everyone, but I’m glad I did.
    It’s always about what works best for you and what makes you happy.

    Looking forward to reading more from you.

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  • Jenny April 5, 2010 at 10:07 PM

    I know what you mean. I’ve been focusing more on me and who I am with my blog as well. I couldn’t stand “mommy blogging” anymore. Especially since my son is at school all day and we don’t really have our time together anymore. So there’s no point. And I’m to paranoid to put pics of my son online anyway xD

    BUT I will be keeping an eye on this blog. ‘Cause I love reading your posts. 😀 Gonna add your link to my blog as well.
    .-= Jenny´s last blog ..10 Spiffy Blog Designs =-.

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  • Tia' March 24, 2010 at 10:52 AM

    Great post! I had a rant on my blog, and retooled it to just a personal blog. Its great to see you stay true to yourself. {p.s. I did the move thing for family after my son was born ,(th still think it was the biggest mistake of my my 20s. But you just learn to accept things for what they are, and move on. Good that you learned that while you are still young.}

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  • L. J. Miles March 17, 2010 at 7:57 AM

    I absolutely love this post. I would love nothing else but to help provide for my family through blogging. But if that means that I have to censor myself till there is nothing left…miss me with that, please. I know this, whoever is truly for YOU, will continue to be, even through changes. Thanks for sharing!

    ~ L. J.
    .-= L. J. Miles´s last blog ..Deafness & Social media Conferences ( #Socialmediaconferences ) =-.

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  • Kendra - Chief Diva February 10, 2010 at 12:21 PM

    I really appreciate the honesty of this post. Your transparency is what makes you a real person. We all go through seasons and situations in our lives that we look back on and realize we weren’t being our authentic selves. I’m still trying to determine what’s right for me and what’s not as a blogger. I congratulate you on finding what fits the way you are wired.

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  • Dana February 9, 2010 at 4:23 PM

    I just found our other blog and linked to this one. I hope that you have found your voice again and I look forward to reading you.

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  • Crystal G. February 8, 2010 at 2:15 PM

    I just found your blog. Obviously enough, I haven’t read anything from your Mommy Daddy blog, but this is just a reply to encourage you to follow your heart and your passion. I wish you all the best in your personal and professional life, and look forward to reading what you plan to share with us here.

    Be blessed.

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  • Rachel January 30, 2010 at 5:01 PM

    sorry you closed your other site – I liked the kid focus! And I like your blogging voice, glad to have “found” you again!

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  • chele January 21, 2010 at 9:09 AM

    Bravo! From a mom that shut up on her PERSONAL blog awhile for the same reasons. Here’s to you and keepin’ it real! =)

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  • Jenn January 19, 2010 at 8:50 PM

    Sheena, I am so happy to hear that you are going to focus on you. I think that is one of the biggest mistakes a lot of mothers to make. They pour their all into their children, and they go to extremes, to the point where their entire identity is intertwined with their children. I’m sorry, but that is just not natural, and that is not healthy. You are a mother, yes, but first and foremost you are a woman, and you need to stay true to yourself. Don’t be a mommy blogger. Be a blogger that happens to be a mommy. <3

    And don't worry about being honest about who you are. Honesty is refreshing, and the human side is what we all need to hear. I'm 25 and my husband is 27, but you know what? I was 20 and he was 22 when Alyssa was born. She was a surprise. Ryan was planned… and born when we were 22 and 24… still so young! We got a car, then another car, moved, bought a home, went into debt, are about to file bankruptcy… and we're not even 30! It's insane! But that's life, and you shouldn't try to sugarcoat it. Go with the flow, and be open and honest (as much as you're comfortable with, anyway).

    I have written about my life and my life with my husband and children honestly. I have put it out there that I used to weigh over 300 lbs — sadly, closer to 350 than 300 (I had gastric bypass surgery in November, and between that and the 45 lbs. I lost prior to surgery, I'm just a few pounds shy of weighing 240, and I'm plodding on to my goal weight of 160 lbs.!). I have let it all hang out, but the opportunities to monetize and enjoy products and samples for review and giveaways have continued to come in. If anything, being so HONEST and not the typical sparkly mommy blogger has made me more appealing! Hopefully you'll discover the same thing. 🙂

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  • Auriette January 15, 2010 at 10:22 AM

    Too many times, we do what we do for the wrong reasons. Or maybe we have good reasons, but our hearts aren’t in it. You are taking a courageous step to make changes in your blogging life, and I wish you all the best.

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  • Luv2CUSmile January 15, 2010 at 10:20 AM

    I just wanted to post and say I think this reflects your strength. It takes a very strong person to look deep within and admit when something is not working for them. So many people are not strong enough to push aside other things and focus on self. I hope that continuing with this blog you can keep it real for yourself and not focus on others. Yes, “we” are the reason Sponsors and such are attracted to a blog but “you” are the reason you blog. Or that is the way it should be. I am glad you wrote about what matters most to you right now and can respect that. I didn’t know about this blog of yours but will add it to my favs. I think I will enjoy reading about you and your likes. There are times when we as women need to recognize that is what we are, women. So many sides to us and as we focus on being a mom, a wife, an employee, a friend, we sometimes lose ourselves. I commend you for not losing yourself. 😉

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  • Lisa C Writes January 8, 2010 at 4:30 PM

    Ahhh, I bet that felt good 😉
    I bow to you!

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  • Shynea @ Penny Pinching Diva January 5, 2010 at 4:22 PM

    Well, this is where I first fell in love with Sheena. *sigh* lol I have been a follower of this blog for YEARS so I am beyond ecstatic that you are bringing it back, and bringing the real you to the forefront. I know that whatever project, website or blog you put your hands into will be great and I only see great things coming for you and Sophistishe.

    I will be an avid follower of this blog and I can’t wait to get to know the woman behind the website. Keep fresh posts like this, because in the sea of “cookie cutter mommy blogs” this will be my daily breath of fresh air.

    Take care and much love,

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  • Ronnie_BMWK January 3, 2010 at 10:15 PM

    This is very brave…I am proud of you for doing this!!! Good Luck…I know it will be successful because you are following your heart.

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  • Amber January 3, 2010 at 1:25 PM

    Here’s to keeping it real! I would much rather read the real stuff, I’ll admit it. I’m glad you’re starting over, and I hope that it works better for you this time.

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  • Quiskaeya January 3, 2010 at 10:40 AM

    Awesome Sheena! I am so happy for you. You will do great things in whatever you do. Just do you – always!

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  • Meredith January 3, 2010 at 1:06 AM

    Hey Sheena! I’m glad you’re coming back to personal blogging again. I’ve always enjoyed reading your entries…dating back years and years! You’re right, you are a lot better off than a lot of people your age. Take me for example! Hopelessly single and no direction in life whatsoever. haha. Wait, I probably shouldn’t laugh at that. 😉

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  • Mandi Speaks January 3, 2010 at 12:37 AM

    You know? I love this. It’s real and it’s honest. It’s not always fluffy bunnies and pink roses. It’s raw sometimes. Thanks for sharing your heart.

    Ps I ADORE the blog design! Absolutely every piece of it! If I weren’t broke, I’d be asking you how much you’d charge to design my blog – heck, I’d even switch to WP for a blog that looked as amazing as this one! 😉

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  • Sky January 2, 2010 at 8:47 PM

    Sheena’s got her Groove back!

    I’m proud of you and I’ll always stand by you! You are an absolutely amazing woman, don’t ever feel like you aren’t.

    Hugs friend!

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  • Naomi January 2, 2010 at 8:19 PM

    High five for speaking your mind and owning up to the fact that you don’t need to do it all just because you have sponsors. I think a lot of us have been wrestling with these issues, too.

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  • FutureMama January 2, 2010 at 7:36 PM

    I’ve told you this already but YOU ROCK! I’m happy for your new move!! 🙂 I agree, real stuff is so much more fun to read 🙂

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  • [email protected] Marlie and Me January 2, 2010 at 5:05 PM

    This post stands out among all the cutesy Alpha Mom blogs. I really appreciate your honesty…I find it refreshing and way more interesting. I look forward to reading more!

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  • hangingwithmrscooper January 2, 2010 at 4:49 PM

    Girl, do whatchagottado. I’ll be right there reading. Happy New Year.

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  • Alisa N. January 2, 2010 at 4:41 PM

    I have enjoyed your blog these past 2 years so glad we didn’t loose you. You have to be happy no matter what so glad you have found happiness in your new blog!

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  • crystal January 2, 2010 at 4:32 PM

    Hey Girl, I totally understand your change and i am just so happy we didn’t lose you!! I am looking forward to your new posts:)
    ~Happy New Year to you and your beautiful family~

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  • Jessica January 2, 2010 at 3:59 PM

    Welcome back, Sheena!

    Kudos to you for writing this post and coming to terms with the type of blogger you want to be.

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  • Jennae January 2, 2010 at 3:26 PM

    I’m just happy that you’re doing what makes YOU happy. Not the sponsors, or anyone else who has ideas about what you or your blog should be. And you know me well enough to know that I care very little about what others think, so more power to you girl! I’m subscribing right now 😉

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  • Alli January 2, 2010 at 2:45 PM


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  • Nessa January 2, 2010 at 2:26 PM

    Great post. I think you feel the same way a lot of us do. I too have censored myself thinking that I had to be a certain person that the sponsor would like. After all, my blog is my job and we desperately needed the money it was bringing in. But, you are right, if sponsor don’t like who you are, then you don’t need them. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one feeling these things. And yes, that is what drew me to blog reading to begin with…that sense of community. So, you go girl!

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  • Dddiva January 2, 2010 at 2:12 PM

    Good for you! I’m an older mom and grandmother and I know how easy it is to lose yourself in your family and kids. NONE OF US is perfect, I have much more respect for those who let us see the real people they are. I for one look forward to your growth. Eventually the sponsors (who don’t just care about numbers but want people who might actually want their products) will realize it is not the cookie cutter blogs or the cookie cutter reviews that will do them the most good. Excited to see where you go from here.
    Sherry aka dddiva

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  • Kris Cain January 2, 2010 at 1:50 PM

    Great post. I completely understand every point that you have made. I wrote something similar a few months ago. I go through those same internal struggles from day to day, but you are exactly right. People read blogs for a variety of reasons, and usually it is because they love the bloggers voice. Once we let that go, the blog is just another page.

    You keep up the good work honey! And I don’t think we are that far from each other. If you need to vent, or at least hang out with another adult we can setup some playdates or something. 🙂

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  • JenniferG of Hip As I Wanna Be January 2, 2010 at 1:41 PM

    Bravo!!! From the blog design to the post content – you’ve got me. I have been struggling myself with a personal blog versus a “mom” blog versus my other passions. I decided (just the other day as a matter of fact) to blog about whatever I want to blog about. MY PASSIONS. I’m going to stop worrying about what others say is a formula for success and stop worrying about statistics, etc and instead focus on my own passions. 🙂 Bravo again to you!

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  • Jennifer James January 2, 2010 at 1:41 PM

    It’s always wonderful to reflect and then act upon your reflections. Next time, don’t take so long! Life is short. Live it being yourself. 🙂

    Happy New Year!

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  • Cindy January 2, 2010 at 1:32 PM

    My husband and I are both 24, though he will be 25 in a few months. We have a son who will 6 in less than two weeks. We struggle, but we too, do a lot better than we could be doing and than others are doing. I don’t take the time to blog anymore, but this post shows me that I really should! 🙂

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  • Jenn Fowler January 2, 2010 at 1:02 PM

    Kudos to you! I know that you will do great things, regardless of how, or where you decide to blog. Go for it 🙂

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  • Shelly January 2, 2010 at 12:12 PM

    I am very happy for you that you know what you want. Most people your age are still trying to figure it all out. Continue to do what makes you happy and I want to see more of Sheena than just that mommy blogger. I wish you much success for your future and truly hope you find fulfillment 🙂

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  • Kristina Brooke January 2, 2010 at 12:05 PM

    I went through this change in 2009 too and that is why I changed my tagline to “Reflect.Rethink.Redo” because in truth, that is what life should be about. Evolution to the better. Good for you!

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  • Elizabeth January 2, 2010 at 11:17 AM

    Well, you know I adore you and your family so whatever you write about, I’ll be hear to read it. You’re not alone in looking back at 2009 and feeling like you spent more time writing what sponsors wanted than what was really happening. Here’s to getting our passion for blogging back in 2010!!


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  • CaseyDeuce January 2, 2010 at 11:15 AM

    Sheena, I’m so happy to hear that you dug deep to see where you needed to be in order to make yourself happy. That takes a lot! And yes, I’ll admit that I’m a bit jealous that you did it, I wish I could…

    Best wishes of course, I’m here if you need anything!!

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  • Raquita January 2, 2010 at 10:46 AM

    I for one am glad to see you back here, I started reading you before you switched over to Mommy/Daddy and I have to say I missed your individual voice. And its good to hear it. As a wedding photographer I hope you post a bit about the upcoming nuptials I love reading about weddings almost as much as I enjoy photographing them.

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  • Kimberly Mom in the City January 2, 2010 at 10:26 AM

    Good for you. Life is too short to pretend to be something that you are not. Do you girl! Happy New Year!

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  • Wifey January 2, 2010 at 7:41 AM

    Good for you, Sheena! Looking forward to reading more here.

    Winks & Smiles,

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  • Dara January 2, 2010 at 4:07 AM

    “But when you let people into that chapter of your life, your experiences may be comforting to someone who may be going through the same. That’s why I started reading blogs.”

    I appreciate post like these because this is also why I started reading blogs. I completely understand your decision to monetize and use sponsors…heck, I was trying to do the same until my 9 to 5, my daughter (i’m a single parent) and my life in general started getting in the way. But I fell off reading MommyDaddyBlog because, although I’m a parent, I just wasn’t into the reviews as much. I was looking to connect with parents about the joys of parenthood and the freakin’ difficult stuff we go through. I’m glad you’re back to personal blogging. But most of all, I’m happy you made a decision to do what makes you happy.

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  • Can Can (Mom Most Traveled) January 2, 2010 at 2:42 AM

    I’m with you.

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  • Alana January 2, 2010 at 2:20 AM

    It’s so ironic the parallels that exist in life. I got married at 21 and had our son at 22. I often found, that as I became more subsumed in “our life,” and my life as a wife and mother, I began neglecting me. The more you became submerged in Mommy Daddy, the more your personal blog was ignored.

    I think that, no matter what age, mothers will always struggle to negotiate the balance between their personal selves and their mommy/wife/lover selves. I think that this is the true struggle of womanhood. Keeping your own self when everything around you seems(emphasis on seems) to demand selflessness.

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  • Lori (A Cowboy's Wife) January 2, 2010 at 12:50 AM

    YOU GO GIRL! Well said and I’m happy to see you follow your true passions! I think MANY bloggers do what you’ve been doing and not being their true selves to avoid criticism or fear less opportunities. Proud of ya!

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  • Kat @ For the Love of Chaos January 2, 2010 at 12:46 AM

    Awesomeness 🙂 I look forward to reading YOUR blog, honey! Do what makes you happy… that’s what blogging is about – YOU.

    I was a young mom too, by the way {obviously} … My birthday is today. I’m 27. My oldest child is almost 10 years old. So, yeah. lol Just wanted to throw that in. You do you. No one else can do it like you can! 🙂

    *high five* Go for it!

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  • Michele January 2, 2010 at 12:44 AM

    Congrats on following your passion Sheena! 2009 was an growing year for me as I was swept into a blogging whirlwind and realized late in the year that I, too, had fallen away from my passion. So we’re both starting this New Year reviving our respective passions and it WILL BE GOOD! 🙂

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  • Melanie @ Mel, A Dramatic Mommy January 2, 2010 at 12:29 AM

    Kudos to you on following your heart. Now that so many family member have my URL, self censorship has been heavy on my mind. I didn’t tart my blog to NOT say what’s on my mind. I hope I can get to the same place you are now.

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  • jane4girls January 1, 2010 at 11:37 PM

    As a young mother myself, first one at 20, I can relate with the struggles of still trying to be a kid but making that switch into being a parent. Always remember that you need to do what feels right to you and your family.

    Keep up the great work!

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  • Andrea H January 1, 2010 at 11:18 PM

    I think what you are doing is great! I will be reading along here and when (and if) you start back up at MDB I will be there too! Sorry I don’t comment much, I will try to start doing better about that =) I have been a reader for a while, I just rarely comment.

    Happy New Year!

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  • Mark January 1, 2010 at 10:20 PM

    I commend you for pursuing your authentic self. I’m wondering though, if the original mommy blogger Dooce could be successful with being herself, couldn’t other mommy bloggers do the same? Or have sponsors totally put the kibosh on perceived “negativity”?

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  • Sophia January 1, 2010 at 9:31 PM

    I feel you and I have only been “mommy” blogging two months and I too have completely neglected my pre pregnancy blog. I am glad you shared, I started to feel the same things!

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  • Toni January 1, 2010 at 9:27 PM

    I was a young mommy too. 20 when I had my oldest. I totally get the whole not wanting to be all “mommy blogging” I took that in to very careful consideration when picking my name. Yes I will blog mommy stuff but I will talk about me, products, random thoughts because that is what I want to talk about, not just parenting (even if it gets thrown into the mix LOL). So A Daily Dose of Toni (juststopscreaming.com) is what I came up with, while juststopscreaming can fit with kids if I want it to it more applies to me keeping my sanity through daily life 🙂

    I will for sure add this to my reader and follow you because you rock 🙂

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  • tanyetta January 1, 2010 at 9:21 PM

    ***Some people don’t like their greens to touch their cornbread***

    Well alright, Sheena is HERE, somebody pass dem greens.

    Very Excited for your transformation. 🙂

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  • Jaimie K January 1, 2010 at 8:56 AM

    THanks for this post! Just letting you know that I’m a 23 year old mom too, and I love it! There is nothing else I would rather do and I’m sure you feel the same way. It’s okay to be “just starting out.” DOesn’t everyone have to start out?? It’s okay to have to budget because money is tight. I have to. I say–just be YOU, and take care of your responsibilities the best you can. Who cares what other people think? It’s not their place to judge, especially because most of the time they don’t even see the whole picture. I surely have so many things to work on, and unfortunately at times do care what others think– but I think we need to just focus on ourselves and our family, work at becoming better, and enjoy our precious lives as we go.

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  • tanyetta January 1, 2010 at 8:18 AM

    Very Nice Post Sheena!

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  • Michelle Pendergrass January 1, 2010 at 1:30 AM

    It is SO easy to get swept up into that fake nicey-nicey crap. I mean, there’s a time and a place for politeness. I try not to cuss on my blog because I know there are many people who follow that just don’t agree with bad language. But that doesn’t mean it never happens. I’ve dropped the f-bomb in the posts about losing my best friend to breast cancer. And if I lose followers or sponsors? F’them, too, if they don’t know how bad it hurts to watch someone die.

    You said, “If I cannot build brand relationships based on being myself, then I don’t need them. Simple as that.” To that I say, “Amen.” and I love you! You are such a beautiful person.

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  • Gina January 1, 2010 at 12:42 AM


    Thanks for having the strength to write something real! I’ve realized over this past year I’ve gone away from that too and intend to write more for myself than my sponsors this upcoming year. I honestly like to hear about people’s struggles. We often find ourselves in the same situations and hearing from one another helps tremendously to know your not alone.

    Keep up the great blogging, your loyal readers will always follow.

    Happy New Year!!!

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  • Jenny January 1, 2010 at 12:19 AM

    I was young. I’m still young. And we aren’t perfect either. In fact… we’re kinda sucky parents but we do a good job seeing as our kid is still alive xD

    You’re fine. Don’t let people get you down. And if they do, KICK EM IN TEH BALLS!! 😀 You have my official permission.

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  • Mrs. Sowell January 1, 2010 at 12:13 AM


    This was deep. It takes a lot to come clean so kudos to you for discussing your struggles. As a blogger, you have the choice to share as much and as little as you want to. I hope your other readers appreciate the fact that you are evolving and sharing at the same time. I will be locked in. I love your style!

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