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Repost: Playdate Therapy

Today, I’m missing “Wednesdays”. Haven’t had one since last summer due to life changing events and tight schedules. Here’s a repost from exactly a year ago. Sometimes I still get the “playdate jitters” as I continue designing my life element by element…

Park Day March 17, 2010

Before giving birth to my son, I never thought much about playdates. But after he was born and the months began to fly by, I started to realize that my boy was growing up. He needed to be around others so that he could learn from them, grow up with them, and embrace childhood together as friends.

Thinking about it all gave me an uncomfortable feeling because that meant that I had to interact with other moms. Moms who would be older than I and more advanced in their lives. Moms that may possibly turn their noses up at me because I’m not on their level.

Some playdates go totally wrong.

Overly judgmental moms do exist.

We don’t have this, we’re not yet.

What about the ice breaker moment?

I’ll probably have to answer questions I wish I didn’t have to.

I’ll just stay at home.

All of these thoughts swarmed through my head at once.

How would I connect with moms who shared my same interests and ambitions? How would I connect with moms who would accept me for who I am in the midst of what I thought to be my imperfect life?

Park Day March 10, 2010

Luckily I found a group of girls who I am fortunate to have in my life. Surprisingly they all blog or did at one point in time. We all have much in common, we agree, and we respectfully disagree. We are of various ages; twenties and thirties, me being the youngest but not at all the oddball. Each Wednesday get-together is like therapy. We are able to talk and listen (it’s my nature to listen), sip coffee and enjoy a potluck brunch while the kids play.

The kids, they get along so well. I remember our first playdate. We were welcomed with hugs. It felt like home. Jayden walked right on in, grabbed a toy, and smiled at the other children. He exchanged hugs and kisses too. He obviously gets his social genes from his dad.

I honestly don’t know where I’d be if it weren’t for our Wednesdays. I’d probably feel all alone and sheltered, still waiting for things to be perfect enough for me to mingle with other moms. My son would still be waiting to splash in the mud for the first time.

Park Day March 10, 2010

Do you attend playdates? Have you ever been apprehensive about attending them? How’d you find your group?

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Sheena Tatum

Hey, I'm Sheena! I married my jr. high sweetheart and together, we raise three tiny humans in NW Indiana. I'm an introverted free-spirit and serial dreamer obsessed with all things tropical and carefree. I love inspiring others to live wholly and find beauty in the mundane. I don't always get it right, but I'll keep trying anyway. :) Email: [email protected]

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  • Long Schrenk May 7, 2011 at 5:19 AM

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  • Susan April 15, 2011 at 7:48 PM

    Finishing up my entries for BYB…thought I would say hi while I was here 🙂 Have a great weekend!

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  • Cam - Bibs & Baubles April 13, 2011 at 12:51 PM

    My little guy and I have done our share of playdates. It’s been a good experience. It’s always a bit unnerving to meet new people but sometimes kids are the best icebreakers!

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  • Tricia @NightOwlmama April 11, 2011 at 11:57 PM

    NO but wish I did. Funny enough I noticed your in Chicago and SO am I!!

    I have 4 children my younger two are boys ages 5,3
    stopping by from Boost your buzz to say hello 😀
    have a great day

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  • Yakini April 11, 2011 at 1:04 PM

    Since our boys are in day care full time and able to get much of the socialization piece from there, I never really felt compelled to have regularly scheduled playdates.

    However, these days Chase (our toddler) seems so bored on the weekends… roaming listlessly throughout the house, so over all his toys, resentful of all the attention that Bryce needs, and ultimately getting himself into trouble (ie, time-out and occasionally getting popped) because he is acting out (no doubt, out of boredom). It’s at these times that I feel we need to offer him something more, ie, peers his own age to interact with on the weekends. He has so much fun at school, so many activities/people to stimulate him – and our house is just… our house. When it’s warm outside we go to the playground, but that is just a couple hours in the day.

    It’s funny, I actually know a few moms in the community, who have reached out to me for playdates – even aggressively so. And I’ve resisted those offers. Not so sure why. In part due to some of the reasons you’ve described (ie, feeling anxious/shy/unsure of how that would go), and also because I tend to be more of a reclusive person and would rather be at home with my family. But that’s really not fair to Chase, the more I think about it. So thanks for this post, as you’ve totally inspired me to spread my wings and step outside my little box/comfort zone. Chase deserves it!

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  • Demetria April 8, 2011 at 3:50 AM

    wow…that’s something I’m dealing with right now, only I WANT the playdates! Play dates can be scary at first when I over-think things (like fitting in, etc.) I feel some of those fears now even as I’m looking for those social opportunities for my kids, but yet I know we need them for that social outlet. Thanks for posting this.

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  • Roberta April 7, 2011 at 3:16 PM

    It has been years since I have been in a playgroup that I love. I probably haven’t ventured too much into joining one. I also consider my children as each other playmates, so we work real hard all day long at getting along.

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  • Mandi April 7, 2011 at 2:07 PM

    I go to a free mommy and baby class every wednesday at the hospital I delivered at. Though I haven’t made any lasting relationships yet, I love it because I learn something new every time. And I hear other moms going through the same things I go through.

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