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Sadly, not all marriages last. Whether you’ve been together for several years, have children and have built a life together, or you’ve been married less than a year, there are some signs that unhappy couples simply cannot ignore. Especially when they’ve fallen out of love with each other.
It’s important to remember that arguments and disagreements are common in all kinds of relationships – they don’t all have to result in divorce. Unfortunately, when couples cannot move away from feelings of animosity, a lack of trust or affection, it may be time to speak with a lawyer. Reach out to this Virginia beach divorce lawyer if you think it’s time to file for divorce.
So, what signs should individuals be mindful of during this critical stage of their relationship? Here we’ll explore the worrying signs your marriage is headed towards divorce.
You’re happiest when you’re without them
You love spending time with your children, your friends and importantly, on your own. Yet when your spouse is present you feel resentful, over-critical of them, hostile and unhappy. We’re all guilty of irritating our partners from time to time and we all have bad habits, but if these feelings of bitterness or apathy plague your marriage and have superseded your long lost feelings of love and compassion then it could be time to make that call.
You’re trying to avoid them
Remember those butterflies you’d feel whenever you knew your partner was near? Or how reassured you felt knowing they were in your life and ready to support you. These days could be a little different. Sitting in the car and prolonging time away from them, wanting to be with friends and family more or spending quality time with your children without your partner are all tell-tale signs that you may need to reach out to a divorce lawyer.
There is no trust
Often the signs of divorce are much more obvious, such as a lack of trust between you. Maybe you found some messages on their phone, or you know they’ve been meeting with someone else under the guise of something work-related. If you find yourself questioning their every move, or on the contrary, if your partner doesn’t trust you (even though you haven’t done anything wrong) it may be right to call time on your marriage.
You don’t want intimacy
This can be complicated. If you’re no longer interested in intimacy with your partner, then there could be several reasons. Including a medical condition, a lower sex drive, if you’ve just had a baby, you’re overworked and stressed or maybe you have confidence issues. But if the idea of intimacy with your partner makes your skin crawl then you should take this as a warning sign. Intimacy isn’t just about sex, it includes embracing, kissing and touch. Gone are those goosebumps and butterflies! If this is an issue that can’t be resolved via better communication of your needs or counseling, then divorce could be an option.
Deciding to break up your marriage isn’t easy. So, consider all other options before you choose to end things, such as marriage counseling and working on your communication.